This is the Best Time to Have Sex, According to a Sex Therapist


Believe it or not, there has been quite a bit of research done on what the best time of day to have sex is (because, yes, there’s such a thing as a good and a bad time of day for sex, or so it would seem). For the most part, that research has found that, when it comes to optimizing your sex schedule, your best bet might be to get busy in the morning. The theory is that having sex in the morning ultimately helps get your endorphins pumping first thing in the morning, which means a better mood and higher energy levels to help you power through the day. Makes sense, but we decided to touch base with some experts in the area to see if, in fact, that morning roll in the hay is as good as it’s cracked up to be. The verdict. Not necessarily. 

While experts don’t deny that some early morning sex can set you up for a successful day, they all agree that finding what works for you and your partner is way more important than pinpointing an “ideal” sex time that works for all the couples across the board.

“The best time to have sex is whenever the couple feels that it is right,” says Sarah Watson, a licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist. “Everyone has a different time of day when they are going to be more aroused and have desire. The most important part is making sure the context is right for both partners. That means finding a time when there is desire, arousal, excitement, and consent. So mornings might be best for some, but it could be afternoon for others.”

Plus, experts agree that while morning sex might have specific benefits (it doesn’t hurt that you’re getting to it while your hormones are already pretty balanced and neutral after a good night’s sleep), timing sex to your personal life and preference instead of confining it to a scientifically-suggested timeframe doesn’t necessarily mean trading off the benefits altogether.

“There are different advantages to having sex at different times of the day, as well,” assures Caleb Backe, a health and wellness expert at Maple Holistics. “For instance, having sex just before you go to bed will help you get a more peaceful night’s sleep while being able to have a quickie during your lunch break can also help relieve stress and give you the energy you need to finish the day on a high note. That is, as long as you aren’t gone for too long, and you don’t fall asleep at your desk when you get back.”